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The Bishop of a fairly large church pulled me aside so no one else could hear our conversation.  He said, “I need you to be as direct as you possibly can with our church.” He sighed and then dropped his head.  “We have ignored these topics for so long thinking they would eventually disappear while we preached holiness and truth.  Unfortunately, a significant number of the younger generation now openly accept bisexuality or have tried bisexuality, they are accepting of the homosexual lifestyle, and some are caught up in pornography.” He stopped talking as a parishioner walked by, then continued, “Most of our parents came out of the world and feel incompetent discussing such issues with their kids, while much of the older generation says church is not the place for such topics.”

Unfortunately, the same conversation can be echoed across all types of churches, regardless of size, ethnic make up, or organizational affiliation.  The sexual revolution of the 1960s has grown into an all out war that desires to destroy or make converts of everyone with its insidious lies.  Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to dealing with issues like sex and sexuality.  Burying our heads in the sand in an attempt to appear like we are too holy to be aware of such things in this world is allowing the younger generation to be destroyed.  The church cannot leave gapping holes in weighty issues of life and allow the world to fill in the blanks for our kids.  If you are too shy or embarrassed to talk about issues of God designed and God created sexuality with your children, the world will gladly fill in the gaps for you. For example, the largest pro-homosexual organization in American was given the green light to provide sex education within the public school system until 2016.  The indoctrination has begun at the elementary school level with the subtle inclusion of books being placed on shelves of the school library with the titles My Two Moms, My Two Uncles, and Mom, Mommy and Me (Ryan, 2011).

Addressing these issues is not cutting edge for the church.  Paul dealt with very similar issues when addressing the Corinthian church in 1 Corinthians chapter six.  One could even say Paul set the precedent for pastoral leadership to address sexuality issues in the context of the church.  Teaching about these sensitive topics with your young people will not create some kind of monstrous sexual appetite within them that hey will have to battle with for the rest of their life.  God has already created the sexual appetite within them.  What the younger generation needs are Godly anointed men and women, who will take the reigns of the issue and teach them how to control their nature and show them God’s plan for their God given and God designed sexuality.

Psalm 101:2-3; I will sing of your love and justice, LORD.  I will praise you with songs.
(2) I will be careful to live a blameless life — when will you come to help me?  I will lead a life of integrity in my own home. (3) I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar. NLT

David recorded these words in Psalms:

  • Before there were pornographic videos created every 39 minutes in America for internet distribution (Ropelato, 2009)
  • Before the average age of exposure to hard core pornography was 8 years old (Jackson, 2011)
  • Before there were five times as many Internet connected cell phones compared to computers (Kinko’s cellular advertising bulletin).
  • Before the cell phone, provided by parents to their teens, was quickly becoming the number one method that teens use to view inappropriate sexual content.
  • Before one in three visitors to pornographic websites was a woman (Duke, 2012)

I wonder what David would have thought had he lived in 2012?  Despite the time difference, David fought the exact problem each one of us fights today, the flesh.

The following list of resources can be used to assist Pastors, parents, and youth workers address these sensitive topics with the next generation:

  • Every Young Man’s Battle, Arterburn, Stoeker, & Yorkey.
  • Every Young Woman’s Battle, Arterburn & Ethridge.
  • Preparing for Adolescence, Dr. James Dobson.

The above resources are best used in a one on one setting or a small group setting.  Simply handing the resource to someone and expecting things to change is neglect.  We need to follow through with what Paul wrote in Hebrews 10:24; And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works. KJV

As the Bishop spoke with me that day, it was obvious he was riddled with guilt because he knew he could have and should have done more than what he did.  It was easier, at the moment, to ignore the issue and hope it would go away, or scream at it a little bit from the pulpit and hope the fire of conviction would burn out the impurities.  Some of the deepest grief we will experience in our lives will come from moments when we realize we should have done more.  It may be uncomfortable for you, but remember, it’s not really about you anyways.  For far too long, the church has surrendered an issue designed by God to bond one man with one woman together for life to a perverse secular society.  The vast majority of our teens have integrated secular concepts into a God created, pure and holy design.  We tell our teens it’s worth the wait, now lets show them they are worth the effort.

by Jason Carr


Resource list:
Ryan, P. (2011, July 11), Taxpayer Money Will Help Homosexual Activists Establish ‘Safe Spaces’ in Public Schools, http://cnsnews.com/news/article/ taxpayer-money-will-help-homosexual-activists-establish-safe-spaces-public-schools.

Jerry Ropelato, http://internetfilterreview.toptenreviews.com/internet-
pornography-statistics.html, 2009.

Jackson, R. (2011), When Children View Pornography, Focus on the Family.

Duke, R. (2010, July 11), More Women Lured To Pornography Addiction, Washington Times.

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